Epic love stories we see in the movies consisting of
grand gestures and overly dramatic scenes are entertaining but hardly give us
the realistic idea of what a relationship is about. They usually show one big
fight where it is made up with some crazy outlandish (and unrealistic) gesture
to get the other person back or running after someone in the knick of time and
maybe some grand proposal. For myself as a young girl, seeing movies like this
had me thinking that when I was older in a relationship a guy would sweep me
off my feet and take my breath away with one of these insane but romantic
gestures. I thought that an epic love required one of these over the top
actions from a guy.
But growing up from my teen years of dating to my early
20’s now and dating I see that a real life relationship is not like the movies
at all. Teenage me thought, wow those girls being asked to prom in some
dramatic way and posting it on Facebook must really be loved. How I was wrong.
In my experiences I have found that the little things that are just between you
and him are the most important.
The little things? Really. Knowing what kind of coffee
you like or getting you a small gift with a lot of meaning to you shows how
much they pay attention to the person you are. What the romcoms and epic love
stories don’t show a lot are the small everyday things a person in a
relationship does or the little things and how they really add up to becoming
an epic love. And how small fights occur that need making up too. That everyday
isn’t a montage of perfect dates.
Don’t get me wrong, getting a grand gesture is always
something to be desired after a big fight but doesn’t hardly define love for my
relationship nor expected at all.
Being young and getting on our feet in life I’ve found
that this little things done for me are actually the most special. Opening my
car door and a small little Facebook post unexpectedly are things that bring a
smile to my face and remind me of how special I am to him.
In my young relationship, I have found that the small
things are what really melts my heart and makes me fall even more in love.
Cooking and cleaning for one another is actually something we find to be a team
effort and an act of love that is both delicious and precious time spent
together. For me, the spontaneous and thought that goes into the gesture means
the most to me. Knowing the exact type of candy to bring me on a down day to
cheer me up or even getting a video on my phone of him playing/singing on his
guitar of a love song are things that make me feel special.
After a long day filled with high, and tense emotion and
negativity my guy came around and became the bigger person and that was
amazing. He was able to move past all the negative vibes we had going all day
and just started to love on me a hug and kiss my check as we were sitting on
the sidewalk before I dropped him off at home.
Our conversation became more positive and filled more
with love. Because we love music I started to play a song on my phone that
meant something and was saying everything I wanted to say to him. He got it
what I was trying to say, he understood I had been a little insecure, and he
did something I never expected. He stood me up with another slower song I was
playing and he slow danced with me in the middle of the street.
I don’t know if that was my movie moment but it sure felt
like it. I thought to myself how ‘is this happening right now?!’ Am I really
this blessed that even with a negative bad day filled with tension that my man
can actually just move on and end the night so positive with so much love in
it. We may have no money and have had rough year with a lot of outside
challenges but at least we live a life filled with a great love. And when the
Beatles sang “Love Is All You Need” they were really onto something,
because true love between two people is the most magical feeling one can get.