The Little Things

Epic love stories we see in the movies consisting of
grand gestures and overly dramatic scenes are entertaining but hardly give us
the realistic idea of what a relationship is about. They usually show one big
fight where it is made up with some crazy outlandish (and unrealistic) gesture
to get the other person back or running after someone in the knick of time and
maybe some grand proposal. For myself as a young girl, seeing movies like this
had me thinking that when I was older in a relationship a guy would sweep me
off my feet and take my breath away with one of these insane but romantic
gestures. I thought that an epic love required one of these over the top
actions from a guy.

But growing up from my teen years of dating to my early
20’s now and dating I see that a real life relationship is not like the movies
at all. Teenage me thought, wow those girls being asked to prom in some
dramatic way and posting it on Facebook must really be loved. How I was wrong.
In my experiences I have found that the little things that are just between you
and him are the most important.

The little things? Really. Knowing what kind of coffee
you like or getting you a small gift with a lot of meaning to you shows how
much they pay attention to the person you are. What the romcoms and epic love
stories don’t show a lot are the small everyday things a person in a
relationship does or the little things and how they really add up to becoming
an epic love. And how small fights occur that need making up too. That everyday
isn’t a montage of perfect dates.

Don’t get me wrong, getting a grand gesture is always
something to be desired after a big fight but doesn’t hardly define love for my
relationship nor expected at all.

Being young and getting on our feet in life I’ve found
that this little things done for me are actually the most special. Opening my
car door and a small little Facebook post unexpectedly are things that bring a
smile to my face and remind me of how special I am to him.

In my young relationship, I have found that the small
things are what really melts my heart and makes me fall even more in love.
Cooking and cleaning for one another is actually something we find to be a team
effort and an act of love that is both delicious and precious time spent
together. For me, the spontaneous and thought that goes into the gesture means
the most to me. Knowing the exact type of candy to bring me on a down day to
cheer me up or even getting a video on my phone of him playing/singing on his
guitar of a love song are things that make me feel special.


After a long day filled with high, and tense emotion and
negativity my guy came around and became the bigger person and that was
amazing. He was able to move past all the negative vibes we had going all day
and just started to love on me a hug and kiss my check as we were sitting on
the sidewalk before I dropped him off at home.

Our conversation became more positive and filled more
with love. Because we love music I started to play a song on my phone that
meant something and was saying everything I wanted to say to him. He got it
what I was trying to say, he understood I had been a little insecure, and he
did something I never expected. He stood me up with another slower song I was
playing and he slow danced with me in the middle of the street.


I don’t know if that was my movie moment but it sure felt
like it. I thought to myself how ‘is this happening right now?!’ Am I really
this blessed that even with a negative bad day filled with tension that my man
can actually just move on and end the night so positive with so much love in
it. We may have no money and have had rough year with a lot of outside
challenges but at least we live a life filled with a great love. And when the
Beatles sang “Love Is All You Need” they were really onto something,
because true love between two people is the most magical feeling one can get.


Why Graduation is Terrifying and Exciting All at the Same Time


As I am in the midst of my last week of finals ever, there are quite a bit of different emotions coming up than any other finals weeks I have not experienced during this time. Every undergraduate knows the stress that occurs during this week. The amount of information we are expected to be tested on and the inhumanely about of knowledge we are trying to cram into our brains can be exhausting as well as stressful. This stress is something I saw coming and am used to. However, being a graduating senior makes the more of emotional and sentimental feelings that come up throughout the week. Walking onto campus this week was a different experience; I looked around and saw all the chairs and stages for commencement being set up and graduation became real and lead to this complex mixture fear and excitement.

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Being a senior I learned that I have a normal finals week routine and the amount of stress and more negative feelings come out, but the positive feeling of complete excitement and anticipation of graduation is upon me. The excitement that I will finally be done with taking tests and being graded is finally going to be past me. Seeing all the signs, emails, facebook and instagram pictures is all so exciting. This chapter in my life is over, and I am so thrilled to be moving on into the rest of my life. Everything from the time I was a child lead up to this. It is what I have been working towards for the majority of my lifetime  and its so exciting that I am so close to accomplishing the biggest and most anticipated event of my life.

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This excitement of going to the next chapter of my life that is a mystery is also accompanied by a fear that is petrifying. The unknown, uncertainty, and the limitlessness of real life is what is terrifying. Up until now I have always been graded and life was “pass or fail” or “good grade or bad grade.” I am now entering real life, where a syllabus or rubric isn’t handed out telling us what is expected and what is expected of me. Life is full of freedom and opportunity and is our one and only shot to make the most out of what we are doing with it. It doesn’t need a grading scale, we create our own motivations to do the best work we can. For someone like myself who hasn’t found their niche as far as a career goes, this can seem so scary! A part of life where I don’t have to follow guidelines, and I am my own supervisor of my entire life and I am fully responsible for my actions in order to pursue true happiness is a bit frightening, to say the least. The fear is that I don’t know my future and I don’t have any specific goals or deadlines, my education timeline is over and its time to face this big bad world.

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How do we cope? All of these emotions: stress, fear, and excitement are all real and all happening. The most I can say for myself is that I am taking it day by day to accomplish the biggest moment of my life. The stress I have to pass and do well on my finals should also apply to fear that I am experiencing about the future. The stress should be a motivator in the future to get out and get a career. The fear that I am experiencing about the uncertainty of life is also an indicator of being so incredibly excited to step into a life full of potential. If I walk off the stage with my BA in communications, and have only learned one thing, I was that I need to analyze every situation and decision because there are so many layers to every situation and seeing all the points of views and options, I am able to make the best informed decision. This will lead me in the right direction for what ever my next step is.


Happy Graduation!

Why Tabula Rasa?

I wanted to make this blog about something that was relevant to my life and could also help other people out there who may read this. The name Tabula Rasa is Latin for “a blank slate,’ which I thought was perfect for the general idea of what this blog is going to be about. Everyone deserves to have a fresh start sometimes and become a healthier and happier person. I know for me I am ready for a blank slate and start fresh on a new way of living. This blog is going to contain a collection of interesting facts about ways to enhance a healthy lifestyle. I want to incorporate new healthy facts, exercises, inspirational stories and recipes along with my progress on how my transition into a healthier way of living is going. I want to inspire people to learn more about health and hope they want to change too.

Getting back on track of being healthy is super important to me because health is a really big part of my life. I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis when I was only 12 years old and have had to struggle with it since.  However, the healthier I stay the more under control the disease can be. The more healthy foods I eat and the more active I am, the symptoms appear less; and that is worth so much more than the temporary satisfaction of sweets. Lately, I have gotten off track of my health and want to start over and try to get back to a healthiest lifestyle I once was at. I realize that changing a lifestyle isn’t a day to night sort of transition and breaking bad habits is a challenge. It takes time and progress. I have developed some bad habits in my health regime and plan on changing by being accountable to this blog. I also hope that not only my body starts being healthier but my spirit gets healthier also. My main goal for this blog is to share my transition to a healthier and better body and mind with others who might need some inspiration to make positive change in their life.